These Limiting Beliefs kept me stuck and spinning my wheels for years

Are you also one of those people that care way too much about what others think of you?

The opinions of family, your friends, your colleagues, your boss and the list goes on.

Whenever you want to do something different in your life, they have 22 excuses all lined up why it’s the worst idea in the world and do you know how lucky you are to have whatever it is you have?

Yes, I’m sure this resonates on some level.

Then I ask myself why is it so easy for some people to just put up an invisible block that translates to “I’m just me and I’m doing what I want, and I don’t need your or anyone’s approval to do what I want to do.”

Throughout my life, I’ve faced plenty of success-blocks… well obstacles.

Let’s call them obstacles for now. Of course in hindsight, I now know what those obstacles really mean.

If there was an award for self-sabotage, like the Oscars or the Grammy’s, I’d probably get one.

I’m pretty good at getting in my own way.

Maybe you can relate?

It’s that little voice in your head that keeps going when you are about to:

• think of making a change, like moving to another country and starting over

• consider leaving your 9 to 5 to start your own business

• want to leave something familiar or a relationship that’s no longer working

Scientists have noticed that people don’t just have thoughts they can talk about, like “I’m good at solving problems.” They also have thoughts they don’t even know they have, like “I’ll never be good at this.” These hidden thoughts can affect how we act (Conner and Barrett, 2005).

These are some of the things that kept me stuck for a long time.

1. I’m too old (or too young). Who will take me seriously?

2. I’ll believe it when I see it. Where’s the proof?

3. I don’t have the money or resources to do …

4. I can’t. I’m not like so and so.

5. I don’t have enough time. I’m always working.

6. I’ll never break through my income ceiling. My industry doesn’t pay that well.

7. Change is too hard. It is what it is. Accept it.

8. Maybe next year. When I have more …

9. I think I’ll settle. Who wants to be rich anyway.

10. I don’t deserve nice things. So many people don’t have what I have.

11. There’s no point in dreaming big. That’s for other people not me.

12. I’ll always be broke. I don’t get better offers in my field.

13. I don’t have the right education or experience.

14. I’m not important enough.

15. I’m not ready yet.

16. I can’t do what they are doing.

17. Everything is fine as it is.

18. I wasn’t born into the right kind of family.

19. Why should I be happy when so many people around me are not

Recognize any of these in yourself?

I used to have these thoughts in my head, holding me back. I’d get a great job offer, then turn it down because I felt something inside stopping me. It wanted me to stay safe, even if it made me unhappy.

Things started changing when I started learning from Bob Proctor and his company. He showed me what was going on with me.

And most importantly how to fix it.

Years of learning from family and surroundings shaped my thinking. It’s like a mental program in charge of how I feel and act.

You see, I had a paradigm problem.

Now I’ll go deeper into paradigms another time, but just know it’s a mental program that has exclusive control over your behavior. And of course the results you get.

Once I understood this, I had a better view of myself.

Being aware helped me see where I got those limiting beliefs from.

Bob Proctor used to say you can change your way of thinking, no matter the challenges.

And it turns out he was spot on.

You can get better results. Now, who doesn’t want that?

If this sounds like you, leave a comment please. I’d love to hear from you. Tell me if you can relate to this and if you have some of your own limiting beliefs that keeps you stuck.